Jan 16, 2019
In this YHC Coaching Gym, Cate Stillman sits down with Carly Banks to talk about coaching family members and loved ones.
Carly has led three very close friends through her 10-week program, The Habit. She has found that resistance that she could easily coach a stranger through results in defensiveness from her loved ones. Carly acknowledges that part of the problem might lie with her reaction to the defensiveness of her loved ones: she retreats rather than rallying as she would with other course members.
Cate reminds us of the adage: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears” and suggests that perhaps Carly’s loved ones are students who just aren’t ready. Cate’s advice, based on her own experience, is to run your course for the people who want to be there, and occasionally you’ll be pleasantly surprised when old friends and loved ones show up ready and fully engaged. Cate explains that she would actually make enrollment harder for friends and family, taking into account emotional triggers and the possibility of them messing up the group dynamic.
Focus your energy on getting the right people invested and let friends and family fall where they may.
As a working mom of two, Carly Banks knows how easy it can be to put yourself last. For years she showered herself in “shoulds,” feeling guilty for not taking care of herself, and wishing she had more time.
Sometimes, there just isn’t more time. But there is always a different perspective.
Instead of focusing on how far away she was from big goals and big habit changes, Carly switched her focus to the little goals, and little habits she could create with ease. With this change in perspective, step by step, Carly has changed her entire life. Connect with Carly on her website, Facebook and Instagram.